Yesterday I was watching my favorite "Sex In The City" episode, "Are We Sluts?" Here's a rundown of the episode :: Carrie is wondering why her new love interest Aidan's won't make the move to sleep with her after only a week and a half of dating. Samantha is accused of being a "slut" because she has company after hours on a daily basis, and someone in her building gets robbed because one of her friend's lets the prep in. Charlotte is having sex with a guy that whenever he climaxes, he yells out inappropriate slurs. Miranda finds out she has chlamydia, and she doesn't know how she contracted the disease. Her doctor suggest that she contacts every sexual partner she's ever had. This of course forces the foursome starts to question themselves, "Are We Sluts?"
I'm pretty sure we've all been put on the spot with guys and even friends, asking us how many partners we've had. I honestly don't see why the question is asked so often. I mean, I can honestly say that I can count all of my partners on my hands, but that doesn't necessarily make me a slut because my number is greater than 4? I've had several guys tell me that they won't mess with a chick if she's had more than 6-8 partners. Crazy huh? I don't get why females have to have limitations on how many guys they can give the goods too. Dudes can sleep with how many ever chicks they want to and its all good. He's considered to have game cause he's smashing all these chicks. If the tables were turned and the female is the one smashing all these dudes, she's a slut or a hoe. How is that fair? Now there are girls who are just plain out sluts. You the know the ones who smash 3-4 dudes in the same crew, family members, or anybody who looks their way. They can't help it. They're okay with the fact that they are sluts and they don't plan to change that.
Now Carrie was going crazy with the fact that this sexy man wouldn't act on any of the sexual advances she made to him. He was so perfect but yet he wouldn't sleep with her. After telling her girlfriend's about it, Samantha of course questioned his sexuality. She said he was gay, while Carrie defended him by saying he wasn't. Later she admitted it had only been a week and a half of dating. Samantha told her that there was a small window of time that a woman must sleep with a man or she will be put in a "friend" category. Is that true? So basically we have to give up the goods within a certain period or will can forget about any chance of a real relationship? What about the chicks with a 3month rule? Do those girls still exist? Carrie was eager to give it up to this fine man. Does that make her a slut? Sometimes women just need it, nothing more, nothing less. If she decides to give it to a new guy is that a slut? What if she chooses to give it to her ex-boyfriend? What does that make her then?
Nowadays, people are so concerned with what others think of them. If I honestly cared and listened to everything people said or thought about me or my actions, I would be miserable. Who cares? At the end of the day its going to be you alone with yourself and you have to be able to be satisfied with yourself and do things that make you happy. If you like to get d!cked down by different guys weekly, that's your business. Who cares if someone else views you a slut, as long as your practicing safe sex more power to you.
Honestly, what is an acceptable number of partners for a man and a woman to have? Is there a time frame a woman/man should wait to have sex with a new partner? What would make a person (male or female) a slut? Let me know what you think!