
I have never been the girl who can talk to someone because of their status or their money. That stuff doesn't excite me. But if I'm attracted to you physically, you have a good head on your shoulders and a big johnson in your pants I instantly like you. It is more to it then that but those are the biggest factors for me. Sex is important to me. If you can't satisfy me sexually, you can't satisfy me at all no matter how much wining and dining you do.
Can you truly have a successful relationship without good satisfying sex? The last guy I truly talked to we didn't immediately hit the sack. We went a couple of months before we actually had sex, we actually bonded on a friendship level first. He was my homeboy. I loved his company and his conversation. Honestly I was never sexually attracted to him, but he caught me at a weak moment when I was just horny. For me the sex was not the best, but it was for that moment satisfying. We had other issues besides the sex, which caused us not to workout but I don't think we could have had a successful relationship without the good sex.
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I often contradict myself because I enjoy sex, so its hard for me to not have sex with someone that I am attracted too. If I get alone with someone its hard to resist those urges. I also feel like if I spend all this time getting to know someone and then I have sex with them and its not up to par I will be mad for wasting my time. If the sex is bad I honestly lose interest in them. I don't have time teaching someone how to sex me. So if your in a relationship is the sex important? Are you truly in love or are you whipped off of their sex? "Don't mistake love for sex just because you love the sex."
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a lot of truth and wisdom in this post. i also love that diagram!
keep it up ;)
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Thanks for reading!
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Great post!
I think you made some great points. Is it love or the love of sex. I think it's both. And that's ok. We like what we like. We all have a sexual appetite. It's common for us to have a bond with those who share the same appetite. If there's an EMOTIONAL and MENTAL connection, you just aint fuck buddies. It's deeper than that.
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I think its the love of sex. Thats why so many people think they are in love. With time feelings develop but most are based off of a sexual relationship. Just my opinion.
But I agree with the emotional and mental connection. Very true. Thanks for commenting!!!
For me personally sex is a major compo....nent in relationships and ill have to admit I've been dick whipped..so now my issue is waiting on sex because if we wait and then u suck im completely tturned off....mszplainjane
I can't pretend to like you and the sex is horrible. I've had a relationship where we were friends first then a relationship then the sex. I thought the sex was cool enough to get my fix for the time being. But anybody else, If the sex is bad, everything else will become bad. I don't have anything to look forward to. Now I have been dick whipped and I aint afraid to admit it ! lol and that's just our understanding. Nothing more nothing less. Just sex.
I can't pretend to like you and the sex is horrible. I've had a relationship where we were friends first then a relationship then the sex. I thought the sex was cool enough to get my fix for the time being. But anybody else, If the sex is bad, everything else will become bad. I don't have anything to look forward to. Now I have been dick whipped and I aint afraid to admit it ! lol and that's just our understanding. Nothing more nothing less. Just sex.
@Janice aka MsPlainJane.. Im so happy you commented. I can believe u admitted to being dick whipped. I know I definitely have been. But its normal right?
@Ashley but that was the difference you had a relationship. So you weren't whipped. Your relationship was able to fully develop. (the way it should be) But honestly I grow impatient sometimes I just want it. And if its good.. bump all that mess your talking just give me my fix
I think you can be in love without being just whipped if the sexual relationship takes place after building a friendship.
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