Guess I’ll see you next Lifetime…
Is it a limit on friendships? Is “best friends forever really forever?” How long is forever? I talked to an old high school friend yesterday at work. She asked was me and one of my old best friends still friends. I looked at her and said no. She was so confused and needed some kind of explanation. I didn’t have one to give her. The friend she is talking about was my bff for 11 years. That’s damn near all my life. We always attended the same schools 3rd-senior yr in high school. Is that the reasoning our friendship couldn’t hold up? Is it because we were no longer obligated to see one another in school? It baffles me because when we went off to school we never talked. Like not once a month type talk, but never. I would call her and she wouldn’t answer or would give me excuse after excuse. So I said eff it and left her alone. I hate being the bigger person. Im tired of calling people first. Seriously if were friends it’s a two way street. Why must I make the first move. Allll the time. I feel like when people get older that drift apart. We change. Sometimes when you hold on to past relationships (friendships) they hold on to how you used to act. If you change they cant accept it. They judge you the most. I saw her NYE and we didn’t say a word to each other. Its weird but im okay with it. Why be fake. I love her and care for her but being friends seems so fake.
The girl I was talking to said she was no longer best friends with her bff from elementary - to high school either. She seemed so upset and so hurt. I could tell that she wanted to be friends with the girl still. I told her were no longer in high school, were grown. Sometimes not talking so much gives us space to grow and learn. If your meant to be friends then you’ll always be friends.
So I guess I’ll see you next lifetime.
posted by Amber Steez