A couple weeks ago my older brother and I were conversing about relationship roles. The conversation started because I told him our dad asked me to come over and cook dinner for him. I told him that my father and brothers were the only men I have ever cooked for. He thought that was strange. I didn't. I ain't yo mama! I ain't cookin fo no N!gga. (Ratchet Voice) No but seriously, I don't feel like I gotta cook for you. To me, that's too much like playing house. And I'm not playing house with anyone except my husband!
My brother feels the opposite. He told me that he was a limited commodity and there are certain things that need to be provided to him before he would consider making her his wife. I said, "Please explain yourself." He said, "Since I am an educated black man with a college degree, job, own house, own car, debit free and no kids. You won't find many men like me. So with that being said, its certain things my woman must do. She must cook, clean, wash my clothes, and help take care of home. If she can do that, she might be wife material." I couldn't believe it! So basically the black men with they stuff together, wants me to cook, clean, and wash clothes and I'm only a girlfriend? That's crazy!
I decided to ask 4 of my close friends (2males and 2females) how they felt about the issue. Of course the two males agreed with him and 1 of the females did too. I couldn't believe she sided with them. She said she understands, because she feels the same in return. "If you want this black women with a college degree, job, own house, own car, debit free and no kids, you need to be able to cook, clean, and PROVIDE! She said the washing clothes wasn't an issue. My other female friend agreed with me. All those things are good, but we just boyfriend and girlfriend. Of course I'll do that when we're married, but for now we just going steady. I'm not sure if we feel this way because we've been single for a while, or do other women feel this way too.
So males and females, how do you feel about? Should we be playing house when we're just boyfriend and girlfriend or are those normal relationship things?