Who should go first?

We’ve all heard the phrase “Ladies First” right?  Now when referring to oral sex, does that mean ladies should receive or give first? I’ve always wondered who should perform oral first. I personally prefer to receive first.  Let me explain my reasoning. I believe in a perfect sex-session, he will go down on me, and make me cum a least two times. If you’re AMAZING at it, it might be 3 times. After I get mine, I will have no problem pleasing you. I don’t mean to toot my own horn but *toot toot* I will give you yours. (maybe 2 if it’s your birthday or Kwanza) After we both have pleased each other, then the poking may now begin.

Now I asked a couple people how they felt about this “Ladies First” phrase when it comes to sex. It seemed like more women agreed with me and the men believed it means women should perform first.  So I asked my friend Dezmond to enlighten me on his reasoning. He said, “When a woman sucks me first, it shows that she isn't selfish. That she knows that I need her to get that first one out of me, and after that one, she knows I will give her long pipe all night.” Which I can understand but I also know that majority of women can only reach the most powerful orgasm from direct contact to her clitoris. I told him we too old for the “finger game,” so that would leave you with giving me your powerful head. 

Some people feel if they go first then the other person can back out at any time. But if you guys are in a committed f-cking relationship, then that shouldn't be an issue. It should be understood that if I’m sucking you your eating me; no if, ands or buts about it. I can see both sides, but I just know that if I’m having sex with you, I want to receive something in return: The BIG O!

 So my question is, What does “Ladies First” mean to you, Should ladies receive or give first?