Is it a limit on friendships? Is “best friends forever really forever?” How long is forever? I talked to an old high school friend yesterday at work. She asked was me and one of my old best friends still friends. I looked at her and said no. She was so confused and needed some kind of explanation. I didn’t have one to give her. The friend she is talking about was my bff for 11 years. That’s damn near all my life. We always attended the same schools 3rd-senior yr in high school. Is that the reasoning our friendship couldn’t hold up? Is it because we were no longer obligated to see one another in school? It baffles me because when we went off to school we never talked. Like not once a month type talk, but never. I would call her and she wouldn’t answer or would give me excuse after excuse. So I said eff it and left her alone. I hate being the bigger person. Im tired of calling people first. Seriously if were friends it’s a two way street. Why must I make the first move. Allll the time. I feel like when people get older that drift apart. We change. Sometimes when you hold on to past relationships (friendships) they hold on to how you used to act. If you change they cant accept it. They judge you the most. I saw her NYE and we didn’t say a word to each other. Its weird but im okay with it. Why be fake. I love her and care for her but being friends seems so fake.
The girl I was talking to said she was no longer best friends with her bff from elementary - to high school either. She seemed so upset and so hurt. I could tell that she wanted to be friends with the girl still. I told her were no longer in high school, were grown. Sometimes not talking so much gives us space to grow and learn. If your meant to be friends then you’ll always be friends.
So I guess I’ll see you next lifetime.
11 comments:
hmmmm it always hurts when u stop being friends with someone after that many years...its literally like going thru a break up. but what can u do? people grow apart, people get into fights (lol), etc and for whatever reason u never drift back...when u've done all u can do and it still doesnt work then u just have to walk away...u cant force someone to be ur friend. if things aint end on a bad note i dont see why u cant speak to someone when u see them out tho...just give em a hey how u doin and keep it movin when u say nothin thats like beefin...to me anyway...
i only have 1 BFF and he's a guy, we have been friends for over 20 years! this one is going to be forever. :)
other then that i can care less about friendships, i never invest in them and i'm sure people see that and i guess that's why my azz has no friends! lmao
amber i sooo understand but SHIT she could of said something just as well as me. petty yeah but im over it
sl- yeah male friends are so much better
People are friends because they share common interest and because they have no problem adapting to each others lifestyle. But as people get older they become envious and/or deceitful of one another and the friendship is put to the test. But why would you want to be around "friends" that are like that, when "friends" are suppose to be there for you to help shield you from dumb stuff like that. but life is about lesson, just be glad you learned them early in life.
THANKS FOR THE ADVICE BFF!
I Was Recently Going Through The Same Thing With My Old Bestfriend
It Was Like When She Got Everything Going Good She Kinda Tossed Me To The Side & I Was Sick Of Reaching Out So I Simply Let Go
... Sometimes You Just Grow Apart Or Sometimes You Just Realize They Weren't Your Friends At All
Out Of All These Blogs I Relate To Yours Most =)
awww thanks
no problemo luv
yea she could have but maybe she thought u were beefin with her based on what happened between yall in the past. idk...i specifically told people dont say shit to me if u see me cuz its like that...if it wasnt i would say what up with no problem...
Amber as biggie would say, "beef is when you need 2 gats to go to sleep.. beef is when ur moms aint safe up in the streets..beef is when I see you guaranteed to be an i.c.u." lol thats beef. so im far from that. im not the type to worry about bitches. i mean they come a dime a dozen. were grown. she can speak just like me. petty.. maybe.. but whatever. thats how i feel.
urgh whatever Trevor, i just dont like using my fone.
I mean if I dont see or talk to you for a year its not that i dont care, i just don't like to use my fone. LOL.
That how I feel about one of my good friends who done gone alienated herself. I'll always have mad love for her, but really, I'm a busy girl...who doesn't like to use her phone!
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